Monthly Archives: October 2013

Hello My Blog Family!


Hello family of bloggers,

Well, I said I would be back blogging – but unfortunately life hasn’t allowed it just yet.

My stepfather has been ill and it’s taken 7 weeks to finally be diagnosed with cancer. I have spent quite a bit of time going backwards and forwards to the hospital with my mother.

He finally starts radiation treatment in a couple of weeks.  We never know what’s around the corner waiting for us, do we? I suppose we just have to be thankful for every day we have, and show those around us how much we love them. Don’t sweat the small things, and be grateful for all we have. If we have our health?? We have all we truly need.

My stepfather has fought cancer of the prostate before, and now he has it in his leg muscle. He can and will fight it – he’s a fighter. I lost my previous stepfather, the man who brought me up, a few months ago and I’m not about to lose another. To anyone out there that’s dealing with cancer (or any other serious illness) I hug you and wish well in your fight.

This man has been my light in many dark days and I love him dearly. He’s cried and I’ve cried but now he knows what he’s dealing with? He won’t let it get the better of him. He said that no matter what he’s going to be fine. He told me I need him and he needs me… Yep, I cried! But again, he’s determined to not let it beat him.

So,  life will soon get back to some sort of normality as life has to go on. He went home yesterday and being in his own environment will be way better than sitting in a hospital bed. He can look outside at his little garden and the pretty flowers. I know he’s going to be fine as he has a great positive attitude.

Just letting you know what’s happening in my world and why blogging has taken a back seat yet again.

Miss all your blogs and will soon be back commenting.

Love and many hugs to you all, Paula xxxx

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It’s Not What You Look At That Matters, It’s What You See ~ Henry David Thoreau

Hello Everyone!!
I had to reblog these as they are so inspiring. I hope all is well in your world! Hugs from Oz, Paula xxx

A Mixed Bag

If you want the rainbow, you must first go through the storm. If you want to see the dawn, first you have to go through the darkness. Remember what Winston Churchill said … “When you are going through hell .. keep going” and never forget there will always be someone beside you. You may not see them, but they are there.

Have a wonderful and healthy week.


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Mental Illness

mental-illness-art-a3ce9bb6a9a7cdbcMental Illness. Instantly, this phrase can make someone nervous.

Why do you think it’s still like this in the 21st century?

We all know some of the obvious reasons – for example, the way mental illness is portrayed in many Hollywood movies. One Who Flew over The Cuckoo’s Nest, Black Swan, Sucker Punch, Girl, Interrupted; Fight Club… The list goes on.

But isn’t it talked about more often and people are more open than was once the case? I wonder, what makes someone scared? Maybe they think the person with schizophrenia is going to come at them with a knife because they saw it once on the news? Or maybe they will become some kind of poltergeist and their head will start spinning? How far from the truth! I imagine they just want you to treat them like everyone else. Imagine how hard the diagnosis alone is? And then for someone to be segregated as a result of that diagnosis?? Wow, how crushing!!

What about the Depressed person, who you think is always moaning and down. Why not put your arms around them and let them know that you’re there if they need you. Don’t try to avoid them; maybe just listen to what they have to say… Not just wait for them to finish and run away, but really listen! Sometimes that’s all someone needs. They aren’t failures or losers because they’re Depressed. Depression is very real and it’s not in their heads. If they could make it go away, they would! They want to laugh and smile again just like everyone else. They are lost and broken and need someone to help get them back on track. Whether that be by therapy, medication, love and understanding, or all of them…. Whichever the case they will get there with your love and support. You know anyone can be caught in the stronghold of depression at some point in their lives. Your one gesture of love and understanding? It can change their whole day and world! Show them love and kindness. Everyone needs love and understanding, right?

It baffles me that some members of society still judge this way. I suppose there are those that suffer greatly and at times have to be hospitalised and stabilised as a result of their mental illness, but usually this is a result of someone stopping their medication/s, or that they just need their prescriptions adjusted. I suppose when someone witnesses these turns, it frightens them and I can understand that, but again a little bit of love and understanding goes a hell of a long way to helping their recovery.

Lets take the word Normal. Can someone please explain what that means?? Not what the dictionary says, but what in REAL LIFE does this word mean?

What you think is Normal another person doesn’t! So, who is right and who is wrong?

Bipolar Disorder – You know one minute we are flying high and no one can touch us, next we come crashing down and need someone with big hearts and open arms to catch us. Sometimes we don’t see the fall until it’s too late. That’s when the climb back up to the top can be exhausting. We become our biggest enemy. Everyday we have to find something to smile about or we drown. We are just like you, but some days we stumble and need love and understand to get us back up.

OCD-Obsessive Compulsive Disorder this can be so debilitating for so many people. Yet some people make fun of this. But why? Have they had it? Do they even understand the trauma the person goes through on daily basis? They know it’s not NORMAL, but they can’t help it. It’s what makes them feel normal!

Take Anxiety Disorder, it’s crippling and yet anyone can be caught in its grip at some point in their lives. Very successful people can suffer with this. In no way does the label define the person. Breathing is like hyperventilating and you feel that you are going to pass out. Or worse, you shallow breathe and feel like you’re drowning in your own breath. You’re looking for the positives but all you see is negativity. A mole hill becomes a mountain of Everest proportions! You try to get a hold of it and then it just pulls you back down. Again, people just need your understanding and compassion.

Now this is a tricky one: Anorexia/Bulimia The things these people suffer in their daily lives are horrendous. The way they see themselves can make you cry. I’ve had both of these in my life and let me tell you, they are crippling! They/we do not see what you see. Why do magazines glorify us human beings? We aren’t perfect so why are we always looking for perfection in our bodies. We are attracted to all sorts of different body shapes, right? So, why do we think slim and perfect is the answer? Where does this come from? Even to this day as small framed as I am… I dislike my body. Actually that’s an understatement!!  It’s wrong and I know that, but trying to get this one in my head is like extracting a tooth! 🙂 Beauty is but skin deep, so how does this happen?

You know there are so many disorders out there – these are just some that people face daily.

Please don’t be afraid of what you don’t understand. These people are Normal. They just struggle at times and need your love and understanding. Not anyone’s judgement.

To all those out there that suffer with any kind of Mental Illness? I reach out and hug all of you and understand your daily struggles. We are a lot stronger  than people realise. We fight our demons every day and somehow pull through. Maybe your faith gets you through or the love and support of family and friends. Whatever the case may be, we get there. Be proud of who and what you are and what you have achieved. Never compare your achievements to another, as there will always be those greater, as well as those less fortunate. Stay strong and believe in you, for you are a beautiful soul and deserved to be loved and respected like every other human being.

Remember WE ARE  like everyone else and just want to be accepted for who we are. Our diagnosis DOES NOT define us as a person.

We can only hope it helps others understand, that some days we will struggle. And if we fall? Give us a helping hand and we will get back up and try again tomorrow. You know just that little bit of help love and understanding from those around us? We can get there! Maybe not to what you think is normal, but to what’s achievable and realistic to us. Just love us for who we are and we will love you back as you are!

I really do love our blog family/community and to you all, I for one appreciate the love understanding and friendship that you all have shown me and to those in need here on WordPress!

You have no idea how much you make a difference. That one gesture of love and understanding you show, can make that persons day and life a whole lot brighter!


Love and hugs to the whole community! Let’s not be afraid of what we don’t understand.

Hugs to you all, Paula xxxxx

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Happy Friday!


Hope you all have a lovely weekend!


Paula xxx



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Systematic desensitization – conquering fear

Good Morning Everybody! 🙂

I had to reblog this as Anxiety is something I and many people suffer with. Don’t ever feel alone or ashamed of your fear/phobia. Take it one day at a time and hopefully in time you will be on the road to recovery. Davids a great therapist and if you get the chance check out his blog. Hope your all having a great week! Hugs to you all, Paula


By David Joel Miller, MS, Licensed Therapist & Licensed Counselor.

Anxiety can be a stubborn foe.

It is tempting to avoid the things you fear and to find ways to numb those unpleasant feelings. Some people use alcohol or sleeping pills other people use avoidance. But eventually, you have to face that fear or be taken prisoner by your fear.

You can’t get over something you don’t face. Sometimes the only way out of a burning building is through the door that is on fire. To begin with, we won’t ask you to walk through the flames, just to look at the door and see how your fear that it might be on fire on the other side is keeping you a prisoner in that room.

Systematic desensitization reduces the impact of fears.

One way of domesticating the anxiety monster is a technique called systematic desensitization. This is an especially…

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Mount Beauty
















I’m sure a lot of you have realised that I have been absent from your blogs as well as mine!!  Reason being is that real life has been pretty full on with lots of things happening in my private life – good and bad. Have I missed your posts and seeing what your all up to? Hell yes! Lol It’s an addiction that had to take a back seat for a while. 🙂

Trying to keep up with blogging when you’re life gets a bit hectic…  It can get really hard. I follow many blogs and am therefore constantly reading at home, out on my phone and so on… So, when I get busy and stop? I’m waaaayyyy behind and have to skip some of your posts.

So where have I been this last week?

Well, in a place called Mount Beauty with a friend. And ohhhh what a beautiful place it was.

It was about a 5 hour drive from Melbourne airport. In winter, when the mountains are full of skiers and snow, I’m sure it would be breathtaking. Because it already was, without all of that!  The roads up the mountains are pretty scary though, but well worth the view. When you feel low and you see nature at it’s best it just puts life back into perspective. We stress over so many things and life can get you down at times. But then there’s that view and everything negative you felt runs from your blood as if you’ve been giving a blood transfusion. Healthy pure clean fresh blood, one that makes you feel glad to be alive.

Our world is beautiful and it’s the simple, free things in life that make us happy and bring us down to Earth. Fresh air is like breathing for the first time, you close your eyes and feel the cool gentle breeze run through you like a cleansing of your soul. You open your eyes and everything around you is a natural wonder and your in awe of what nature has given us. This is our world…  All of ours, and it’s free for the taking, so why not see and appreciate as much of it as we can and feel rejuvenated, right? 🙂

I walked on a golf course that looked soooo beautiful and green so I could get photos of the kangaroos for you all to see (the non Aussies, of course – lol We see plenty, right?!). But low and behold, part of it was slushy and slightly muddy… yet I didn’t realise this until I was in the thick of it! YIKES!! Me, girly old me, trying not to fall down and get my shoes dirty!! Haha so please like the kangaroos and the effort to take the photos. LMAO I can’t stop laughing and so would have you if you had seen me! I looked pathetic trying to dodge the slushy bits 🙂

Oh and yes the rain? This particular day I didn’t see it coming from the mountains and before I knew it my friend and I were soaked. I have to laugh as I haven’t walked/jogged in rain since school. When I wanted to have a new pair shoes, I walked in the puddles to ruin them!! Lol BTW: I didn’t get new shoes, I was made to wear them to school wet! Lol Makes me recognise how much our parents  taught us to appreciate what we had!!  🙂

On the way back to Melbourne we went to a town called Bright. What a beautiful little town! It reminded me of a town out of Perth called Dunsborough. I soooo love little country towns and their gift shops they always have a huge variety of bits and bobs.

Then we went through Glenrowan… Ned Kelly country, where he did his last stand. Follow the link if you haven’t heard of our famous Ned Kelly Gang.

Then finally back to Melbourne where I  got to visit the crown Casino again!! Lol I SO love the Crown Casino in Melbourne, if you ever go to Melbourne it’s a must visit!

I  didn’t get a chance to visit our Mumsy from our blogging family as the trip was a last minute decision. But Mumsy when I do? I promise we will hold the bar up at the Crown and dance until our feet ache!! LMAO Love you, Mumsy!

To all my blog family I hope your world is shining! I’ve really missed you all and glad to be back.

So tell me, does fresh air invigorate you too?

Hugs to you all, Paula xxxxx


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